Breaking the Shackles of Shame and Self-Blame

Name: Breaking the Shackles of Shame and Self-Blame
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Five Steps to Breaking the Cycle of Shame

Created bySteven Mills

Last updated 3/2022

English

What you'll learn

To recognise and create a stronger awareness of guilt, shame and self-blame in your life
To understand the main source of shame
To understand the developmental stages of Unhealthy Shame
To untangle and recognise the different hiding places of Unhealthy shame
How to bring shame out into the light
To recognise and manage Triggers & Flashbacks that are induced by shame
To master the art of Self-Compassion and Self-love
Learn to Self-Regulate and ground yourself
Four practical steps to re-parenting your inner child
To re-parent and heal your Inner Child through guided meditation

Course content

8 sections • 52 lectures • 4h 54m total length

Introduction1:47
Explore five practical steps to break the shackles of shame and self-blame. Transform feelings of not belonging into lasting personal progress through actionable strategies in daily life.
The Story of a Neglected boy4:12
What Exactly is shame?3:31
Define shame as an intensely painful emotion or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore not worthy of love and belonging, shaping identity, secrets, and family dynamics.
The Main Source of Shame4:36
Course Overview2:41

The Difference between Guilt & Shame3:24
Developing Stages of Toxic Shame Part 15:49
Developing Stages of Toxic Shame Part 26:45
Nine Rules of Dysfunctional Families6:48
Emotional Abandonment at the core of Shame8:16
Shame as an Identity7:04
The Shark Bait Effect4:47
Watch how shame traps curiosity, teaching you to break free by recognizing distorted thinking and self-sabotage, and learn the shark bait effect for moving beyond self-limiting patterns.
Ten Types of Shame Based Distorted Thinking Patterns8:09
Healthy Shame Keeps us Humble5:41

The Myth of the Good Ol Boy and Nice Gal4:21
DENIAL: Don't Even kNow I Am Lying5:50
Dissociation: Detaching from our Reality of Shame7:04
Projection: Projecting our Shame onto others6:38
Explore how projection shifts our own shame onto others, fueling anger and gossip, while cultivating awareness of defense mechanisms to heal through inner work.
Hyper-vigilance: Our Alarm System5:24
F.A.W.N: People Pleasing as a Cover Up6:00
Are you a Perfectionist?7:20
Addictions We Don't Often Mention8:38
Feeling the Need to Be in Control7:12
Explore how the need to control life and relationships fuels fear and shame, and move from micromanagement toward letting go, self-compassion, and the natural flow of life.

Understanding is the Start Point2:33
The Four A's Approach to Recognising Triggers3:40
Be Clear and Gentle2:22
Explore how to manage triggers and flashbacks with a clear and gentle approach, practicing self-compassion, honesty, and nonjudgmental awareness to reduce self-sabotage.
Five Steps to Managing Triggers and Flashbacks7:45
2-2-2 Breathing Technique6:22
Self-Regulation: Relax the Core Muscles Exercise6:59
Three Ways We Can Start to Untangle the Shame Cycle8:13

Self Compassion as an Antidote to Shame2:39
Bursting the Five Myths to Self Compassion4:04
Bursting the five myths to self-compassion, this lecture reframes self-compassion as mindful acceptance and resilience, not self-pity or narcissism, and shows its selfless power for healing shame and supporting others.
No room for Shame when we have Grace3:07
Discover how grace and self-compassion replace guilt and shame, offering patience. Learn to shift your perspective toward acceptance, using affirmations to move through judgment and toward kinder talking to yourself.
Discovering Self-Compassion: Five Stages to Finding Acceptance6:16
The Three Elements of Self-Compassion5:35
Five Ways we can start to show ourselves Self Compassion7:06

Five Truths I learned Re-parenting my Inner Child8:22
The Ying Yang Dynamic of Self Mothering and Self Fathering2:47
Self Fathering: 7 Reasons we need Strong Personal Boundaries8:38
Establish strong personal boundaries to protect energy, self-worth, and safety; learn to say no, express needs, and maintain healthy, trusted relationships.
How to Start Setting Boundaries7:52
Self Mothering :Developing Nurturing Affirmations4:34
Connecting through writing a letter to your Younger Self3:20
Guided Meditation-Connecting with your Inner Child16:07

Recommended books and Resources3:26
Discover recommended books and resources for trauma recovery, including guidance on healing shame, letting go, self-regulation techniques, and complex PTSD from authors like John Bradshaw, Eric Gentry, and Pete Walker.
Summary and Wrap up of the Course3:03
Break the shackles of shame by sharing your journey and using self-regulation techniques. Emphasize healing through reflection, healthy responses, self-compassion, and ongoing self-acceptance.

Requirements

All you need is an open mind and a curiosity to understand and reflect on this subject in the context of your own life

Description

Are you living with and stuck in the cycle of shame and self-blame, if so then let me help you in this Online course with five practical steps you can take to break the cycle of shame.

In this course you will go on a journey of personal transformation and self-discovery, I will share with you my story, the strategies I have taken to break the cycle of shame. I will also share and hopefully help you understand the main source of shame and how it can develop from early years of life.

Then we will look at where we can hide our shame in day to day life. Before moving onto the solution with five steps that will help you practically to break the cycle of shame.

The Five Steps to Break the Cycle of Shame:

Step 1-Bring your shame to light

Step 2-Recognise and manage shame triggers

Step 3-Untangle the shame cycle

Step 4-Master the art of self-compassion

Step 5-Re-Parent your Inner Child.

You will also have access to five hours of video content and 20 downloadable resources that will support your learning journey with a number of exercises for you to follow and reflect upon shame in the context of your own personal life.

I will also offer Self-Regulation techniques that you can learn to help you become grounded and I will take you through a guided meditation to connect with your inner child.

Who this course is for:

The course is fro individuals who live with shame day to day
People going on a journey of trauma recovery
Coaches, counsellors and therapists who work with Shame
Personal within a workplace or organisation to help recognise shame within employees
Charity workers working with service users that suffer with shame

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Course content

Introduction5 lectures • 17min

Untangling and understanding unhealthy shame9 lectures • 57min

The Hiding Places of Shame9 lectures • 58min

Step 1-Bringing your Shame to Light7 lectures • 38min

Step 2-Recognising Shame Triggers and Step 3-Untangling the Shame Cycle7 lectures • 38min

Step 4-Master the Art of Self Compassion6 lectures • 29min

Step 5-Re-Parenting Your Inner Child7 lectures • 52min

Summary and Wrap Up2 lectures • 6min

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