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Goal Setting Reset: Break Shame Spirals and Stay Consistent
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Goal Setting Reset: Break Shame Spirals and Stay Consistent

A 3-step reset to restart after setbacks, stop self-sabotage, and build consistency without relying on motivation
Created byDr. Jaime Gabriel Raygoza, Kali Jaye, Sandi Ballard
Last updated 1/2026
English

What you'll learn

  • Recognize how shame and “failure stories” create a negative feedback loop that kills motivation and consistency
  • Use the Unshame method to rewrite setbacks into lessons, data, and next steps (instead of identity)
  • Reframe goals into realistic milestones so progress feels achievable again
  • Spot common mental traps (perfectionism, what-if spirals, overthinking) and shift them in the moment
  • Create a simple “Today I will stop…” boundary plan to reduce people-pleasing and self-sabotage
  • Build consistency using identity-based motivation and future-you thinking (not willpower alone)
  • Break the stop-start cycle and design a sustainable restart plan for when life happens
  • Know when to seek extra support (coach, mentor, accountability) and how to use it effectively

Course content

5 sections • 8 lectures • 36m total length

  • Introduction0:47

Requirements

  • No prior experience needed
  • Willingness to reflect honestly (this is practical, but it goes deeper than “just think positive”)
  • A notebook or notes app for the guided exercises (recommended)

Description

Setbacks happen. You get sick, life gets busy, motivation drops, and suddenly the goal you cared about turns into a shame spiral. You tell yourself you are behind, you are failing, or you are “just not that person.” And the more shame you feel, the harder it is to restart.

This course gives you a practical reset to break that cycle and build consistency in a way that is realistic, sustainable, and self-respecting. People often search for this as self-discipline, staying consistent, procrastination, goal setting, motivation, perfectionism, or self-sabotage. If you have a stop-start relationship with your goals, you are in the right place.

You will learn a simple 3-part framework you can reuse anytime you fall off track:

  1. Unshame
    Name the goal you did not meet, identify the emotions and self-talk that followed, and rewrite the story so setbacks become data, not identity.

  2. Reframe
    Catch the “what if” spiral, shift your interpretation in the moment, and reset your priorities with more realistic milestones and stronger boundaries.

  3. Sustain
    Build a consistency strategy that works even if you are not naturally “disciplined.” Instead of relying on motivation, you will use identity-based motivation, future-you thinking, and long-term reward to keep going.

This course includes guided exercises like the Unshaming Activity and the “Today I will stop…” practice, plus coaching insights on perfectionism, negative self-talk, and getting back on track without beating yourself up.

If you are ready to stop treating setbacks like proof you are failing, and start treating them like part of the process, this course will give you a clear reset you can return to again and again.


Topics you will learn in this course: self discipline, discipline, consistency, stay consistent, procrastination, habits, motivation, goal setting, perfectionism, self sabotage, people pleasing

Who this course is for:

  • Anyone who sets goals and then feels stuck in shame after setbacks
  • Professionals, entrepreneurs, and students dealing with self-doubt, perfectionism, or imposter syndrome
  • People who struggle with consistency and feel like they have a stop-start relationship with their goals
  • Folks navigating burnout, stress, or major life changes who need a realistic reset (not a hype speech)
  • People who want practical exercises they can repeat anytime they fall off track

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