Be Confident

Confidence is essential to living a full life.

It can be the crucial difference getting or not getting those things that will make all the difference to you:

• Getting a job, or seeing it go to someone else

• Being accepted onto a course you want to study, or being rejected

• Managing a project successfully, or being ignored and talked over by louder (often less qualified) colleagues

• Persuading people to back your new venture, or being told to ‘go away and rethink’

• Making a real connection with another person, or somehow feeling you’ve not been seen.

Confidence is not a trick.

If you try to fake it, you WILL be found out, because faking fools no one (though sometimes it's a good idea to ‘fake it till you make it’)

Confidence is a mindset.

It’s based in disciplined ways of thinking. It's a mental technique. It’s real.

And it's available to you.

That’s what this course is all about - teaching you techniques to experience life with authentic confidence, making real connections, communicating clearly and being the best version of you.

During the course you’ll discover:

• Why your opinions are not always helpful.

• How to work out the difference between essential, optional and plain-dumb ways of paying attention.

• Why enjoying yourself is not some ‘optional extra’ - it’s the very heart of confident living!

• The importance of knowing when NOT to do things

• Why being helpful doesn't help (and why that’s not the same as being selfish and competitive)

• Why Authentic Presence is the heart of all true experience and effective communication

You'll emerge from the course with tools for life. They’re tools you’ll return to again and again over the years, as you adapt and grow through each twist your life takes. They’re tools that will help your confidence grow from year to year, helping you achieve the fullest, most present and most authentic version of YOU that you can!

There are no tricks in this course. The videos and downloads distill what I’ve learned over thirty years of work as an actor, writer, director, academic, coach, researcher, mentor and author in the UK, Australia, America. China, India, Mexico, Colombia, Greece, Sweden and many other countries. My work over the decades has taken place in leading performance training schools and on professional stages, as well as in corporate and community settings.

I train people to be confident doing difficult things in front of other people!

That’s what I want to offer you.

Forgive Yourself.

You are not perfect, as no one on this planet is. Can you let go of the things that have happened and forgive yourself for being human? Being human means learning through experience.

Have your own back!

Having your own back means the same as having your friend’s back. Be there for yourself, stand up for what’s right for you and do whatever feels right for you. When things get scary or overwhelming, remind yourself that you are there for you and you are not going anywhere!

Listen to your body.

Your body will guide you to find the answers that you have been searching for. Notice when your body begins to feel fatigued, tense or hyper. Close your eyes and breathe into the feeling. What is the feeling trying to convey? Is it asking you to slow down and rest, stay away from someone, or release your energy?

Do something you’ve always dreamed of.

Is there something you have always wanted to try but felt like it’s not possible at the moment? Excuses like, 'it’s too expensive', 'too far', 'too hard' stop you– well here is your opportunity to shake things up and actually do it. Make a list of 5 things and choose one option to commit to. Take one small step today in order to make it happen (Googling it counts). Put it out there and tell all your friends that you are doing it.

Say what you need to say.

More than just another John Mayer song – saying what you need to say means acknowledging your inner voice instead of silencing it. This can be scary if you are avoiding conflict, are worried about how it will affect others, and want to be seen in a certain way. The key is to honestly share what you feel while acknowledging the entirety of the other person. Ask yourself – am I blaming them, putting pressure on them or am I simply sharing my own truth?

The foundation for all of these skills and strengths is unshakeable confidence. Develop it!