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In today's session

• We start laying the foundations of the 28-day RESET challenge

Day 1 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Write down what success looks like for you from this 28-Day RESET Challenge, why now, why you must not fail

2. Write down all the good things which have come from your secret habit, then all the bad things. What do you notice?

3. Write down any significant life events which might have impacted why you have a secret habit

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 1!

In today's session we learn that:

1. Every thought leads to a result or outcome - what are you doing with your thougths?

2. Our mind is more powerful than we realise - are you using this to your advantage or your disadvantage?

3. Our mind can be our best friend or our worst enemy - which is it for you?

If you only remember one thing from today...all thoughts result in an outcome

Day 2 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Desired outcomes - What results or outcomes are you trying to achieve from the 28-day RESET Challenge, and why?

2. Who do you spend your time with - is that good or bad news - do you need to make any changes?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 2!

In session 3, we are focussing on:

• Knowing our destiny or purpose gives us a purpose for living and focuses our attention on doing the right things,

• We need to find/get back to, our “why” or in other words, we need to rediscover our passion and purpose

• If you are a person of faith - ask Jesus / God for insights into what your purpose might be

Activating your learning - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. No failure here - what would you do if you knew you would not fail? Write out a couple of dreams you have or used to have

2. Next step - against these dreams, write some possible next steps you could take?

3. Why is now the right time for you - what is your reason to RESET, RECOVER, RESTORE, REIMAGINE - do it for yourself, not anyone else?

4. Make a note in the comments section below todays session, of what you found most helpful or insightful

In today's lesson, you'll learn how:

• We can use the mood elevator to help regulate how we are acting and reacting to situations or our environment

• We can control our energy and our mood - remember the music example?

• Don’t try to have a challenging conversation when you or the other person is in the lower half of the elevator - wait until you are both in a better place

Day 4 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Score yourself out of 5 on the 6 human needs (1 = needs not met, 5 = needs fully met)

   1. Certainty

   2. Variety

   3. Significance

   4. Love & Connection

   5. Contribution

   6. Growth

2. Even better - using the scores, what could you start, stop, or change, to improve how your human needs are being met?

3. Which floor are you on? - Catch yourself at different points in the day - where are you on the mood elevator and how could you “get curious” to go back up?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 4!

In today's lesson, you'll learn how:

• When reacting to situations, ask yourself whether you are wearing accountable glasses or the victim glasses?

• How can I be more curious to move from victim to a more accountable place?

• The pathway to freedom begins when we face the problem without making excuses for it - our life will not get straightened out until our mind does

Day 5 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. For a recent situation, in a few lines, summarise what happened and why it was clearly someone else's fault

2. For the same situation, now rewrite the situation from a more accountable perspective, what more you could have done?

3. What did you learn from that exercise? - What can you put into practise next time?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 5!

In today's lesson, we'll cover:

1. What are you focusing on and feeding your mind with - is this helping or hindering you

2. Focus on where you want to go, the desired outcome,so we live a fully charged life, not caged in and not coasting

3. When faced with challenges or problems, move quickly to focussing on solutions

Day 6 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Take up the 72-hour challenge – to keep a journal of your emotions and what you are focussing on and perhaps try sharing how it goes with the RESET community

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 6!

In today's lesson, we'll cover:

1. Is there more to life than just you and me?

2. Co-incidences tend to happen, the more we focus on them

Day 7 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Language - write down a couple of examples of how you could change the language you use from negative to positive

2. Explore (a) - If the higher power idea has triggered some positive thoughts then try going to www.Alpha.org to explore

3. Explore (b) - If the higher power concept triggered negative thoughts/resentments, try to understand why you feel this way

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 7, and the first week of The 28-Day RESET Challenge!  Celebrate this by giving someone a shout-out of encouragement in the RESET community

In this session, we are focussing on:

• The moral inventory will be hard, BUT liberating

• This is about you, not blaming other people

• The aim is to remove the crud and just leave HOPE behind

Day 8 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Moral inventory - write down your moral inventory i.e. what grudges have you got, against whom and why; in relation to your:

   1. Relationships

   2. Priorities

   3. Integrity

   4. Mind

   5. Body

2. Liberating - find an opportunity to stand in front of a mirror and take a really good look at yourself. Using Post-Its or pieces of paper, write down some of the things you have done to yourself in the past that you are not happy about. Then write down any resentments that each one may have caused. When you are ready, look at yourself in the mirror and say sorry to yourself. Then screw up all the paper and throw it away to symbolise getting rid of these past hurts. Then give yourself an almighty high five, if you have made it this far, you are utterly amazing, utterly brilliant and utterly awesome

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 8!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. Which wolf are you feeding

2. Take captive every thought - use the 3 second rule

3. Today is the day you stopped using - note it in the calendar

Day 9 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Frequent triggers - identify frequent triggers and identify some blocks you could put in place

2. Relapse buster - use the ultimate relapse buster to fight off those triggers and urges

3. Date in history - mark todays date in your calendar as the date you started in freedom from your secret habit

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 9!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. Rejection is at the root of many destructive habits, so we need to find a way to overcome this

2. There is a remedy for rejection – recognising the issue, and then forgiveness – which we will be covering over the next 2 days

Day 10 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Stop the feuds - write down any feuds you are involved in & write down what YOU need to do to resolve them, be the bigger person and take the first step

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 10!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. Why do I need to forgive?

Day 11 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Who to forgive? - make a list of all the people that you believe you might need to forgive

2. Am I willing to forgive? - spend a minute on each of these people and situations that have come to mind and ask yourself this simple question…. “Am I willing to forgive them and move forward feeling freer and happier?”

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 11!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. How should I forgive?

Day 12 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Who to forgive? - make a list of all people that you believe you might need to forgive

2. How to forgive? - with this list, now think about how you might go about forgiving them

3. Am I ready to forgive myself? - answer this question…. “am I ready to forgive myself for the mess I have made?” No need to write anything, just prepare your mind to get to work on this in the coming days.

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 12!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. Once we have identified a character defect, we can work on making it into a character asset

2. We make amends not expecting anything from the other person

3. When we make amends, we do so unreservedly, no “if’s or but’s”

Day 13 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Character defect - identify your main character defect from the list we talked about in the session and then answer the following question:

   1. How does this character defect tend to express itself in my behaviour?

   2. What kind of stressful situations or pressure causes this defect of character to come to the fore?

   3. What do I need to start doing and/or stop doing to react differently next time?

2. Amends list - start making an amends list with 4 columns on it.  This will likely take more than a few mins so I would suggest for the first pass, just write down everything that comes to mind, and take a break.  Keep this list handy so when other people or situations come to mind, you can add them in:

   1. who did I hurt

   2. how did I hurt or harm them

   3. how can I make amends

   4. when will I make this amend

3. Character defect/asset list - how will you start focussing on the opposite assets rather than your character defects this week?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 13!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. “If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say”? And why are you waiting?”

2. Making amends is about making things right. It’s the desire to heal broken relationships

Day 14 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Amends list - update the amends list from yesterday and focus on the “how” you will manage amends and the “when”

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 14!

In this session, we are focussing on:

Mindfulness - how to practise it, how to live in the moment, how to accept yourself, focus on your breathing, and a whole heap more

Day 15 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Being mindful - practise being mindful, using one of the methods you have learned from today, or a method you have used to good success in the past and write down how you found it.

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 15!

In this session, we are focussing on:

The 5 love languages - and how this can and will revolutionise your relationships! You can access the 5 love languages at www.5lovelanguages.com

Day 16 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Love languages - learn your own love language by going to the website www.5lovelanguages.com. BONUS ask your partner or close friend to do this as well. Write down what your (and your partner's) love language is.

2. Exchange results - exchange results with your significant other/close friend then identify and write down what you could do even better to help show love to them

3. Read the book - read "The Five Love Languages”

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 16!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• Finding out what type of attachment type we are can help provide some pointers on why we might find some relationships more challenging

• Bringing this into our conscious mind can help us find ways to react differently to different situations and the important relationships in our lives

Day 17 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Attachment Theory Questionnaire - complete the 'attachment' questionnaire at https://www.attachmentproject.com/

2. Bonus - Partner - ask your partner or close friend to complete the questionnaire

3. Attachment styles - discuss your attachment styles & any changes you could make in how you interact with each other – Hint – avoid telling your partner what changes they need to make

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 17!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• What are the different behavioural styles that people have

• Why we tend to find some behavioural styles easier to interact with and some more difficult, and how to find people who complement our behavioural style

• Look at options to be more effective when interacting with people of different behavioural styles to ourselves

Day 18 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Identify your behavioural style

2. Bonus - ask your partner or close friend what their behavioural style is

3. Discuss your behavioural styles & any changes you could make in how you interact with each other – Hint – avoid telling your partner what changes they need to make

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 18!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• How our Values & Rules can have a significant part to play in how we live our lives and the results we achieve

• What are your ‘moving toward pleasure’ values and your ‘moving away from’ pain values

• What has to happen (rules) in order to feel (loved, appreciated, accepted…).

• We need to rewrite our rules so we give ourselves the opportunity to be successful - this is effectively rewiring our brain for success

Day 19 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Values & Rules - identify your “values” and “rules” this week and identify which ones empower and which ones disempower you

2. New values & rules - write down one thing you could do today to start re-writing your values and rules

3. Overcoming fear - what one thing will you do today to start overcoming one of your fears – and then just do it

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 19!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• Our rules determine how we feel loved, special, cherished etc, Our beliefs impact how we react to people, Our identity determines what we can or can’t do – and YOU have the ability to influence and control each of these

• I/you am NOT an addict, and I don’t do xxxx (addictive habit) anymore, I am loved, cherished, wanted, special.....

Day 20 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Power statement - write your new identity in the form of a power statement, which defines your purpose and your identity

2. Visualise - start to visualise your new identity and purpose statement

3. Future self - picture your future self in 5 years’ time:

   1. what are you doing?

   2. what have you achieved?

   3. who are you with?

   4. where are you in the world?

   5. how are you contributing?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 20!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• Neurogenesis means each day I can rewire my brain for positive or negative thoughts and outcomes

• Thinking is a powerful and creative force and can be both a blessing and curse, let's commit to using it as a blessing

Day 21 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Mindfulness - if you need a refresher on mindfulness, take a look back at day 15

2. Practising mindfulness - take some time over the next 24 hours to practise mindfulness

3. Trauma - if you are sensing any areas of trauma which may still be lurking around – write down what steps you could take to work through this

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 21 and the third week of The 28-Day RESET Challenge!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• Re-visiting your passion and purpose from week 1 and bringing it to life by writing it down including the next steps you can take to fulfill your dreams!

Day 22 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Dreams - start writing down your dream (s) and some of the next steps you could take to move towards your dreams, put dates against them

2. Making amends - plan to, or ideally have the conversation / send the email / make the call, to complete another or your ‘amends’

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 22!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• What decisions do you need to make TODAY and in the future, to ensure a better tomorrow and a better decade

• What do you need to start doing today to make the right decisions?

Day 23 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Staying "clean" - write down some things that you know you need to do or have, to keep yourself clean/sober and healthy

2. Gratitude - start a gratitude journal and write in it every day, or if you already have this as a daily discipline then be sure to write something in it today

3. Making amends - plan to, or ideally have the conversation / send the email / make the call, to complete another or your ‘amends’

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 23!

In this session, we are focussing on:

• Think about using H.A.L.T and E.M.O.T.E to avoid succumbing to negative triggers

• We need to stop making excuses, we are responsible and accountable for our actions

• In the words of Napoleon Hill - "every problem comes with an equal or greater opportunity" – always be looking for the opportunity or positive co-incidence riding on the back of a challenge

Day 24 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Previous relapses - think back to the last few relapses & identify what happened in the preceding 24-48 hours - how could you have reacted differently to these triggers and/or what blocks could you put in place for the future?

2. Slip-ups - if you had a slip this week, identify what happened in the preceding 24-48 hours - how could you have reacted differently to this trigger and/or what blocks can you put in place for the future?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 24!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. If you can honestly live as though every day “is your last,” you’ll live a life you’re more than happy with, in the end.

Day 25 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Journal about the following:

   1. am I helping anyone?

   2. am I doing ok spiritually?

   3. am I taking care of my body?

   4. am I spending time on myself?

   5. am I holding any resentment?

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 25!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. High performers are not born extraordinary

2. High performaers are highly aware of the purpose of their work, stay energetic, use external motivators, know how to increase productivity through careful planning, regularly connect & give to those around & take bold risks

3. Every single one of us can be a high performer

Day 26 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Power statement - revisit your power or purpose statement from Day 20 and refine it

2. Making amends - look through your list of people you need to make amends with and decide when you will make the next 2 amends on your list

3. High five! - give yourself a High Five for almost finishing the 28-day RESET challenge

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 26!

In this session, we are focussing on:

1. Contribution to something outside of ourselves can improve all areas of our life – health, wealth, wellbeing

2. The world needs YOUR experience – how could you contribute more, or start contributing within the RESET movement?

Day 27 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Your Story - write/record a short clip of what you have achieved during the 28-day RESET challenge – and share in the Community section

2. Giving back - note down some ways you could contribute or give back to society & especially the RESET community - what is the next step you will take to put this into action

3. Sharing is caring - make a list of all the people in your sphere of influence who you will recommend this challenge to, & then send them the link

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 27!

Congratulations - you have only gone and completed the 28-Day RESET Challenge!

• I want to honour you for completing this challenge and taking action towards a better future.

• By now, you are hopefully well on your way to recovery and have a clear grasp on your "why", your purpose and what gives you passion

• You are taking daily steps to move towards your purpose and your dream life

HUGE CONGRATULATIONS! You made it, you have come so far:

1. You identified the struggles getting in the way of living a purpose-driven life

2. You have made changes to overcome past hurts

3. You have asked for forgiveness and forgiven others

4. You have made amends

5. You have got clarity on your purpose for being on planet Earth

6. You have started restoring your relationships

7. You are not only reimagining a purpose-driven life you are starting to live your purpose-driven life

Day 28 Challenge - once you have watched the session, come back here and answer the following questions:

1. Your story - write or record a short testimony of what you have achieved during the 28-day reset challenge and if you feel comfortable, go ahead and share this in the community and in your social media – let others hear your story and see a pathway to their own story changing

2. Spread the word - make a list of all the people in your sphere of influence to who you will recommend this 28-day RESET challenge to, and then send them the link

3. High five! - give yourself a high five every time you see a mirror for the next 5 days - celebrate this success and the change in direction of your life – you have overcome adversity, you have a purpose, you have a destiny, you were born to thrive, so go do it.

Congrats!  You have just finished Day 28!

Book recommendations

1. The Bible - NIV, Message of Passion translation

2. Notes from a friend - Tony Robbins

3. Awaken the giant within - Tony Robbins

4. Switch on your brain - Dr Caroline Leaf

5. Think & eat yourself smart - Dr Caroline Leaf

6. The 5-second rule - Mel Robbins

7. The high 5 Habit - Mel Robbins

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