21-Day Self Love Course

Hello and welcome to day 1. Well, it's the very first day of your journey and let's start this right. This is the time to let go of any doubt that you have about yourself and your abilities. Easier said than done? I know, but let's do it, for now, let's not think about forever. Right now, right at this moment, tell yourself that you can do it, that you can love yourself, that you can be someone that you love unconditionally.

We commit to love the people we do, let's commit to love ourselves too. Today and the following days, you will be working towards retraining your brain and choosing what is good for you.

So, instead of thinking, "This won't work for me" or "I'm not sure I can do this," think, "I am excited to begin my self-love journey and give my best to myself."

Whenever you're about to or are starting something new, doubt can creep up. But, think about your friend, what would you say to them when they're starting something that's good for them? You'd cheer for them, right? You've got to do that for yourself too. You can do this. You can love yourself. You do have it in you.

Trust me, you do. As someone who's been on this journey, I assure you that you can do this.

Self-doubt should not close doors for you, and you can take away its power by changing the way that you talk to yourself. To start doing that, I invite you to join me in your first positive affirmations session for these 21 days in the next lesson.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

Here are your affirmations for today:

1. I am my best source of inspiration.

2. I can overcome any obstacle.

3. I respect myself and my intentions.

4. I can achieve everything I set out to do.

5. I am strong and full of self-belief.

6. I believe in my abilities.

7. I am on my way to great things.

8. I have incredible potential.

9. I control my destiny.

10. I’m grateful for my potential.

In the next lesson, you'll find your journal prompt with a pointer and example.

Hey, welcome to day 2! I hope you liked yesterday's lesson. Today is about giving ourselves permission to feel what we do and be okay with the range of emotions that we experience. I really believe that it's important to feel as much as there is to feel.

Sadness, especially, is important to feel. But while I say that, I am also aware of how difficult it is to go through depression and anxiety when what you feel might not even have a reason to exist and all you want is to not feel that way. So, this is not about that.

This is about the emotions that you need to experience. It's okay to feel nervous when you're about to speak up your opinions, it shows that you're challenging your comfort zone. It's okay to feel afraid when you're making a big life decision, it shows that you've been brave to choose what is right for you. It's okay to feel sad when you miss someone that you love, it shows how much they matter to you and the happiness you share with them. It's okay to feel angry when you've been mistreated, it shows that you respect yourself. It's okay to feel guilty when you make a mistake, it shows that you have values in your life. And it's okay to feel emotions, it shows that you're alive.

There's no need to pretend that you're okay when you're not. There is strength in being true to yourself. Staying connected to our emotions will save us from unnecessary stress to escape them. Life is about these experiences and it's best to live them truly.

Next up, we'll affirm some positive affirmations that honor your emotions and feelings.

Hello! Welcome to Day 3, how's it going for you? Well, I am excited about today's topic which is about bidding adieu to comparing ourselves to others. Well, this one can be tricky. As we have people around us that seem to be doing well and serve as examples of success or happiness, we might want to be like them somehow. Maybe in terms of appearance, behavior, career choices, buying choices, vocabulary, or anything else.

All of this leads to comparison and measuring ourselves up against them. It causes feelings of insufficiency and dissatisfaction with who we are. It also paints them up as perfect people who have it all good. But, they don't, no one does. They might even be comparing themselves to someone else, or you, if they happen to know you.

But, there is a much healthier way to deal with this. As humans, we can't live in isolation and examples will show up around, which is a great thing! Only we have to make the better choice, a choice that is rooted in love for the self and not distaste. So, if you happen to come across someone awesome, choose to gain inspiration. Don't make it about You vs. Them, or you less than them, make it about you and them. Someone dresses well, compliment them and tell them that you learn from them. Someone has a great voice, don't start criticizing your voice but understand what about their voice appeals to you and how you can work on yours in your own way.

Also, it's enough to just appreciate people, you don't have to bring yourself into the equation every time, but if you do, do it in the right way. We are all unique blends and similar in many ways. There is no use of comparison, instead, let's celebrate how each of us is special as we are and part of this world together.

Let's move on to the positive affirmations session now.

Hello there, welcome to day 4! Let's have a great self-love session today by learning to listen to our intuition. I think we have many experiences in life when we feel that we should've listened to our gut and followed our instinct. It's our sixthsense, it seems. Is that why we don't give it much importance?

I've been listening and reading here and there that the heart has its own intelligence. And, I don't have scientific facts to tell you right now but I feel that it might be right. I remember once I stepped into someone's house for a tutoring opportunity and just had a strange feeling in my heart as if I should leave. I brushed it aside and chose to tutor the child there. I went there for two or three weeks and every time I would have uncomfortable and nervous experiences until I finally left. If I had listened to my intuition, I could've avoided that. Other times too, intuition does give us signs when something is right or wrong for us, like when you should end a relationship, leave or take a job, or speak your thoughts. It's just that feeling, you know?

So, I encourage you to listen to yourself and get in touch with your feelings. Sometimes, there isn't the need to analyze and think deeply about something, your feeling gives you the answer, and any further questioning leads to confusion. Feelings are just as important as logic. By listening to your intuition, you'll be able to strike a healthy balance between the two and choose the right things for yourself.

Also, wanted to remind you that you’re close to Day 7 now where your gifts are waiting for you. Let's move on to a session of positive affirmations to honor and connect with our intuition.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. I honor my intuition and use it as a guide.

2. My inner self always has the answer.

3. Whenever I am in a doubt, I always listen to my intuition.

4. I trust my intuition more and more every day.

5. My intuition is highly accurate and clear.

6. Everything I need is within me.

7. I know my intuition will guide me in the right direction.

8. My intuition will lead me to my passion and purpose in life.

9. I have found that if I quiet myself, the answers will come to me.

10. My intuition knows the way.

Hey, gentle heart! Welcome to day 5 of this journey. Today I am here to share a really important lesson that I have recently learned quite well. It is to fill your cup first and give others from the overflow of it. Now, to someone who always aspires to be there for people, it can sound selfish. But, this is a wise thing to do.

This is not about ignoring the people that need you or considering them as less important than you, this is about doing what is best for you and them in the long run. If you keep giving without taking care of yourself first, you won't be able to do that for much time.

Filling your cup first doesn't mean taking away from what you give to others, it just means increasing your stock so you can wholeheartedly support and love them while supporting and loving yourself too. Remember that you are responsible for taking care of yourself.

So, how do you do that? By nourishing your body, mind, and soul. Establish a self-care routine for yourself. By starting this self-love journey, you've already taken a big step towards this, so kudos to you! But, remember that this is a daily practice. If you start to feel better than before, don't slack. Keep doing what is working for you, it may be meditation, morning walks, art therapy, listening to music every evening, reading, having dinner early, you get the idea.

It is essential that you remember to care for yourself as you care for others. You are someone that you are choosing to love and this is an important part of it.

Now, let's move on to practicing positive affirmations.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. I take time to nourish my whole self.

2. I am a priority in my own life.

3. I choose to live in the moment and take things one day at a time.

4. My self-care is worth making time for every day.

5. I take great care of and love my body, for it is a temple and I treat it with respect.

6. I have the right to complete all my needs.

7. I am responsible for taking care of myself.

8. Self-care is important to me.

9. I always make time to nourish my body, mind, and soul.

10. Every day, I put focus on caring for myself as I care for others.

Hello, and welcome to Day 6. I hope you had a good experience with the last five days and are excited about what we'll be working on today. I am, for sure! Today's topic is physical appearance-related insecurities. I had mentioned this briefly when talking about comparison but I knew that this is something so overpowering that it needed to be talked about separately. And, since I had a body disorder when I was 18, I know how to deal with this.

Physical appearance is by no means unimportant or uninfluential. It is definitely the first impression and does give us implicit ideas about someone. I guess that part is natural and can't be totally removed. But, it is by no means so important that we focus all our energy towards making it just as it should be according to someone, or society, or even ourselves.

When I was 18, I wanted to be exactly as someone wanted me to be and I knew that how I looked was a big part of it. So, I lost 8 kilos of weight and even changed how I behaved. It led to so much self-hatred and it distanced me from myself. But now, I realize how foolishly and cruelly I was spending my energy on judging myself, nitpicking every part of my body, and deciding what needed to be changed, and then effectively misbehaving with my body because I wanted it to be something else. I have decided to never walk down that path again and respect the thing that keeps me alive.

Your body is your forever home. It's what takes you around, lets you do all that you can, it's what you experience everything with. It's what gives you life. And, it already loves you. It tells you when you need to rest, when you should eat, when you should hydrate, or go around. It's here to give you care, and all it needs is for you to love it back.

It's hurtful to you and your body to look in the mirror and have disappointment or dissatisfaction be what you feel. Why is it so important to look some other way? If it's good for your health, great, but even then you should approach it with love, not ridicule and criticism. The bottom line is this: Your face, your hair, and your body doesn't deserve to be mistreated. Would you be a good friend if you subjected your friend's body to the same behavior as you do to yours? Think about it.

Also, you’ll be receiving your first set of gifts on Day 7! Alright then, let's give that love to our body now with the upcoming affirmations session.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. My body is a vessel for my awesomeness.

2. I deserve to be treated with love and respect by my mind.

3. I trust the wisdom of my body.

4. There is more to life than worrying about my weight. I’m ready to experience it.

5. I love my body as it is today.

6. I am nourishing my body with healthy food.

7. I am choosing to do kind things for myself.

8. I am compassionate and warm to my body.

9. I promise to love and cherish my body.

10. I am grateful for my body that lets me experience life.

Hello, and welcome to day 7! A full week into your self-love journey, kudos to you! Let's keep going ahead. Today's topic is about letting go of the past and all the negativity that still takes hold of us. And, you will also be receiving your gift today which is 11 affirmation wallpapers for your phone! Let’s get to today’s topic first.

The way life goes is that it can't be predicted, no matter how hard we try to control it. And learning lessons, growing, is a big part of being a human. So, all of us have made decisions that we now think could have been avoided or changed. We regret how things turned out, or the things that didn't turn up at all. There could've been people that we hurt unintentionally.

These are all really important feelings and experiences, and by no way, am I trying to discredit what happened or might still be happening. But, the past is past. No amount of effort will reverse what was. No matter how much we talk or think about it, it's not changing. But, we still have the power to shape our future, to do better this time, to choose wisely.

It's time to let go of the guilt that haunts us, the lost chances that we wish we'd taken, and the results that didn't favor us. If you really think that you could've done better, or that something could've turned out differently, think about what you can do now. If you don't move on, your past is going to taint your future. It would be making the same twice, causing the same harm twice. To use it towards your well-being, it's important to learn what needs to be learned and move forward. Life goes on. New experiences, opportunities will turn up. There is a lot ahead of you. Let go of what has done its job.

Well, immediately ahead of you now is your session of affirmations, let's move on...

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. I am appreciating myself for learning all the good things from the past.

2. I let go of all the barriers and hurdles that come in my way to success.

3. I let go of all the negative thoughts that affected my past.

4. I am trusting the phases of life and releasing the past with ease.

5. I am grateful for knowing about the reality of many things in my past.

6. I am releasing all the painful thoughts of my past.

7. I am converting my past into my future very positively.

8. I am releasing all the things from my past that are not for me.

9. I am forgiving myself for my mistakes in my past.

10. I am now living my life the way I want to.

Hey, welcome to Day 8! I just want to tell you how proud I am of you for doing this. It's a big step towards your well-being and I am grateful that I can be a part of that process for you.

Today's topic is about changing the approach we have towards everything that we do to a healthier one. If you're someone who can be called a perfectionist, chances are that you are hard on yourself when you're not fulfilling your expectations. Listen, I relate to you. I can become hard on myself when I take a little extra rest or achieve fewer outcomes in the day or receive criticism, but I don't like that about myself and I am tackling it.

If we come farther than we were before, there is obviously progress, and it's so valuable. It's unrealistic to expect ourselves to be at our maximum capacity every moment of time. In times like these, look from afar. Perfection is a concept created by us. There is no limit to how much something can be done or worked upon, but should it?

Perfectionism can be a part of every area of our life if we let it, and it'll take the joy out of everything. There's no issue in wanting to give your best. But, even that will fluctuate. Perfectionism tells that you should be 100/100 in everything every single time. It's inhuman and should be switched with a realistic, healthy, and human approach. Look at progress, learning more, doing things more intelligently, being more aware of how much you can handle. This is life, not a competition. Try to take it in a relaxed way, there's beauty in it.

Let's practice positive affirmations now.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. I allow myself to take it easy right now.

2. Today I will focus on what is possible.

3. I handle criticism with ease.

4. I give myself grace when I make a mistake.

5. I rest, sleep and work in a peaceful manner.

6. My best is not the same every day. I do what I can and appreciate myself for it.

7. I am aware and in touch with my humanness.

8. I acknowledge my progress and celebrate it daily.

9. I notice each little improvement in my life.

10. Today, I will concentrate on taking one step forward, however small.

Hello there, welcome to day 9! You're doing so well, really. It's a beautiful experience that we're having together. Today's focus is going to be on self-worth and all the things that we base it upon and what can be the better choice.

We all want to feel worthy, right? We want to feel that we're good enough. We put all these metrics for ourselves and calculate our self-worth based on our performance on those. And, the moment we don't suffice our conceived levels of success, our worth comes under scrutiny. These metrics can be things like, physical appearance, goals, job, age, number of friends, relationship status, money, material possessions, etc. All these reasons to feel worthy or unworthy. And, all of them are wrong.

Your worth is not defined by what you do or have, it's about who you are. How empathetic, how kind you are, the way that you treat others, how you care for the world you live in. It's about what's in you, not what's around you. You are life, and that is infinitely worthy. Nothing can ever challenge that. As long as you are an authentic person trying to do the good things, there's no reason for you to wonder if you're worthy or not. You're worthy of happiness. You're worthy of love. You're worthy of feeling worthy.

Let's affirm some positive affirmations now to ingrain the sense of self-worth.

Listen to your affirmations above. Write them down in your journal or use the Gratitude app.

1. I am a successful and happy person.

2. I am whole and complete.

3. I am worthy just as I am.

4. My life is a miracle and I belong here.

5. I have abundant self-worth and inner beauty.

6. I deserve everything good that comes to me.

7. I own my power and recognize the strength inside me.

8. I am allowed to take up space.

9. I am worthy and deserving of my beautiful dreams.

10. I confidently and fearlessly believe in myself.