If you have been diagnosed with cancer, if you are supporting someone with cancer or you are a professional wanting to understand what a patient experiences when they are diagnosed with cancer; then this is the course for you.I will not only share my personal journey through ovarian cancer, but will share skills and tools that can make the journey a little easier.
This lecture is about choosing new strategies to face a cancer diagnosis positively and powerfully
What will you get from this course?
I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 1996 and went into remission in 1997, after undergoing chemotherapy treatment. During the last 18 years I have been extensively involved in patient support, as a counselor, caregiver and support group facilitator.
I co-produced The Cancer Coping Kit (an audio program for newly diagnosed patients) in association with The Cancer Association of South Africa and Denise Bernstein (a friend and cancer survivor). This program has been translated into 3 of the official South African languages and distributed to patients across South Africa.
My mom, Carol, was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2007 and passed away in the same year and I was her caregiver. Having experienced cancer from so many dimensions, I believe that I have valuable skills that I can share with you.
In this series, I will show you ways in which you can start celebrating life, even in the face of a cancer diagnosis. I found this to be one of the most profound tools in my journey through cancer.
I am sure that just like me, people are telling you to have a positive attitude! I remember thinking to myself "Yea right! You try and have a positive attitude while going through this!" and yet the more research I did, the more I started understanding the importance of a positive attitude and how it can affect the way you cope.
I share with you my understanding of what an attitude is made up of and how to start working with YOUR attitude to create one that is positive and supportive.
"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." -Winston Churchill
Now that you understand the components of an attitude, lets chat about your beliefs! Beliefs are the drivers to your attitude and taking the time to understand what beliefs you hold, is key to taking control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
Remember YOU get to choose your attitude.
In the words of Victor Frankl: "When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves."
I ended up wasting valuable energy on trying to control things that were out of my control and I would run out of energy quite early in the day. By taking the time to understand what is within your Locus of Control you can conserve your valuable energy resources.
I am a very independent woman and I really struggle to ask for help and yet when I learned to reach out to friends and family members, I found people waiting and wanting to assist me in ways that not only made my life easier, but also demonstrated incredible love and understanding. I am eternally grateful for the wonderful people who stepped in and assisted where they could.
Remember: People really want to help, but often don't know how. It's up to you to guide them!
Cancer has taught me to look at and value time differently. Learning to live in the moment is something that I still work at doing every single day and it is the only way to value what you have. In this lecture, I share with you ways to be fully in the moment and I hope that you will be able to savour and experience all the treasures that are hidden there.
I loved the movie "The Bucket List" and really believe that there is value in creating dreams to strive for, not matter where you are in your life! So get started on that bucket list, it gives you positive things to focus on!
There is a lovely exercise here to help you prioritize where you are spending your time.
Two of the most beautiful and powerful techniques that I started doing during my cancer experience were: Beauty breaks and my gratitude diary. I still do these everyday and I know that they have changed the way I view my life!
I have introduced my family, friends and many cancer patients to both of these tools and I cherish it when people tell me how much they love doing them and the value it has brought to them. I hope that you will enjoy them as much as I do.
"Gratitude and attitude are not challenges; they are choices." Robert Braathe
With a diagnosis of cancer you will be faced with the reality of death, by tapping into your spiritual side you are going to find this difficult time easier to cope with.
I really didn't have any idea of the power of the subconscious mind at the start of my cancer journey (To be honest, I didn't even know that I had a sub-conscious mind). This is an area that I found fascinating to research and to start playing with, and these are tools that I still use on a daily basis.
In this lecture I share with you the tools of affirmations and visualization.
I love tumour humour and I find opportunities to use it where ever I can. Learning to laugh in the face of adversity helped me through some of my darkest days.
"With the fearful strain that is upon me day and night, if I did not laugh, I should die. ” ― Abraham Lincoln
I found that by creating a beautiful space around me, I was able to be a lot calmer and find enjoyment in small things. I hope that the tools I share here will help you too.
How easy is it for you to say NO? Maybe it's time to learn.
Thanks for spending time with me and I hope that the tools I have shared with you will make your journey a little easier!
Bev's warm and engaging manner combined with an intense belief in facing challenges head-on has assisted her in overcoming her own adversity to help people across all cultures take control of their lives. Prior to Bev's diagnosis with ovarian cancer in 1996, she had been studying and training in wellness, incorporating reflexology, massage, counseling and nutrition. She put into practice her training in order to motivate her own healing process and after undergoing surgery and chemotherapy she went into remission in 1997.
Bev's key-note talks and workshops on resilience and sustainable positive attitudes, offers practical tools that can create positive change in people.
As an industrial theater producer, workshop facilitator and international speaker she has connected with audiences of all age groups. Bev's industrial theater productions have played to thousands of South African children, giving the country's youth valuable tools with which to overcome fears and face their future.
Bev co-developed the Cancer Coping Kit, in conjunction with The Cancer Association of South Africa, which assists newly diagnosed patients and their families in coping with their illness.
She is based in Johannesburg and travels locally and internationally offering MC services, key-note talks and workshops.
Bev has made numerous television and radio appearances, and corporate visits, and has been interviewed extensively in the print media.
She shares her life with Leo, who keeps her sane and her dogs, Kai and Shadow, who lavish her with love and keep her fit.