Overcome Social Anxiety. Build Confidence & Self-Esteem

Overcome social anxiety. Stop seeking others approval & people pleasing. Overcome mental blocks and obstacles
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  • Lectures 50
  • Length 4.5 hours
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Published 1/2015 English

Course Description

With confidence, we can achieve anything, without it, we are lost.

That's why it is so important to spend time working on becoming more confident. Confidence is like a muscle, the more you use it, the more it grows.

Has low self confidence and low self esteem been holding you back in your life?

Is it holding you back from putting yourself out there and finding love?

Are you tired of worrying what other people are thinking of you all the time?

Is it holding you back in your career and from going for the job you always wanted?

Or perhaps you want to start your own business but you cant seem to develop the confidence needed to take the first step?

Are you uncomfortable with public speaking or talking in groups?

Are you tired of being overly critical with yourself and over analyzing every action you take?

Or maybe you just feel uncomfortable in your own skin, like I did for many years...

If you were like me, you are probably tired of people telling you the answer to all your problems is to "Just be more confident."

If only it were that simple…

Perhaps you have tried a few times to be more confident and for whatever reason it didn't work, now you have given up.

Well, I'm here to reignite the fire within you and tell you it is possible for you.

But this time, instead of doing it all by yourself, we are going to do it together.

The good news is, anyone can learn confidence, and it doesn't matter where you're starting from.

Confidence is not some exclusive club you are born into, anyone can join.

Hi I'm Tobi Atkins. I am a personal transformation coach, author, online entrepreneur and ex-professional athlete.

I travel the world full time, run multiple online business and live a life of adventure, passion and fun. My self-improvement articles have been featured on lifehacker. com, lifehack. com and pick the brain.

If there was one trait that has been critical in helping me to get to where I am today, it would be confidence.


So why am I qualified to give advice on confidence an self esteem? 

I have been studying human psychology for 7 years, both on a university level for 3 years, and in the 4 years since then I have been studying under some of the worlds leading dating and lifestyle coaches.

These are some of the most confident people in the world and I have had the amazing opportunity to live and work with these guys over the past few years. These are people who go for what they want in life, who risk it all to live their dreams.

I have taken everything I have ever learnt about confidence from these guys and boiled down the process into small actionable steps that you can learn!

I have taught this skill (and I emphasize the word skill because anyone can learn it) to dozens of people from all walks of life and professions, in private one-on-one coaching. 

Now I have made this information accessible to everyone for the first time.

But more importantly than that all of that...

I'm qualified to give advice on confidence and self esteem because I've lived years of my life with low confidence.

I grew up with extremely low self esteem and low confidence. I was actually clinically diagnosed with social anxiety and was on antidepressants medication for most of my teens and early twenties.

When I was growing up, social situations were extremely awkward for me.

I would feel uncomfortable around new people and that would cause them to feel uncomfortable around me.

I found myself stuck in a low paying jobs I hated but I didn't believe I could do any better.

I was too shy to ask girls on dates so I spent most of my life alone.

I was afraid of being judged, afraid of confrontation, and constantly worried what everyone was thinking of me, all the time.

Having low confidence held me back in just about every way you can imagine.

The worst thing of all though was the feeling of being uncomfortable in my own skin.

If this sounds familiar to you, I know exactly what you are going through and I'm here to tell with 100% certainty it doesn't have to be like that for you.

But don't think it gets better with age or on its own, it doesn't. In fact oftentimes it gets worse as you get older.

I have put the work in, years of work to become the person I am today, and I am still working on myself everyday.

Now when people meet me they actually don't believe me when I tell them about the person I used to be. That is a massive compliment to me.

That's why I created this program. To help people as many people as I can move from low self-esteem and low confidence into greatness and live their dreams.

In this program you will learn...

  • Exactly what it takes to build rock solid confidence
  • To be more assertive and get what you want, without coming off as weak or arrogant
  • To get people to pay attention to you, respect you and take you seriously
  • To exude confidence in everything you do
  • To like yourself more and grow your self esteem
  • To identify the common causes of low self-esteem and confidence and avoid them
  • To become your own best friend and personal life coach
  • To get out of your comfort zone and go after what you want
  • To turn that negative inner voice into a positive one

and much more.


I believe I have created something truly life changing here. Something that has the potential to totally trasnform your life.

Whether you want just a little more confidence and to like your self better, or if you are suffering from social anxiety and depression as I was for many years. You will greatly benefit from the lessons and action steps provide here.

Confidence is the key to success in our lives and I am going to show you how to get it.

I am always weary of taking advice from people who haven't been in the situation they are trying to help you with, and you should be too.

If you haven't been there and lived through it you can't really understand what it feels like to have low self-esteem and confidence.

I found people who hadn't been through it couldn't really relate to my struggles. I got the most help on my journey from people who have been through the same situation as me and come out the other side.

And that's why I am now paying it forward.

I have been there. I know first hand the problems you face and I can relate to them because I have faced them too. I started from the bottom and I have made the journey out of it.

I have built my confidence and self-esteem from the ground up and I am going to show you the exact steps I took, and how you can do the same.

And in probably in less time than you think.

Confidence is a learned skill and anyone can learn it. It doesn't matter where you are in your life now or what you have been told.

Confidence comes from having a high self-esteem and I am going to show you the most effective ways of building a healthy self-esteem.

And once you learn this you will then be able to get on with your life and go out and do the things that you want.

  • You will finally be able to have the romantic relationships you want, take on more of a management role at work and earn more money.
  • Finally start that business or career change you have been putting off.
  • You will be able to go for anything you want in your life without fear holding you back.
  • No more feeling nervous, shy and inhibited.
  • You're going to learn how to let go all of that and become comfortable in your own skin and proud of who you are.

I want you to imagine right now how good it would feel to walk through the world with confidence and without fear.

How does it feel to be the person you always wanted to be?


But is this really going to work for me?

Right now you may doubting that this is going to work for you and that's ok, that's normal. But there is a part inside of you that knows you need to make a change.

I know this training will work for you because I have used it on myself and I have taught it to dozens of my one-on-one clients who have seen amazing life changing results.

I am going to give you techniques you can use to improve your confidence starting today.

I've attended just about every confidence seminar out there. From Tony Robbins, to Brian Tracy, to life and dating coaches. I've read every book.

I've been to see life coaches and psychologists and psychiatrists.

I have taken everything I have ever learnt about confidence and self-esteem building and synthesized it down into what works and left out what doesn't.

In this course we are going to dive deep into your psychology and locate the causes of your lack of confidence.

What I have found is once you sort the causes out, then the effects take care of themselves without you really having to think about it. This is a much easier and better way to go about it in my experience.

That being said I am still going to give you some killer confidence boosting exercises you can use to come across as a more confident person.

Together with addressing the mental causes, this will help to supercharge your confidence.
In the course, you are going to learn how to to like yourself more, go after the things you want in your life, attract your ideal partner and move to the next level financially.

I am absolutely certain that if you take the course and do the exercises provided, you are going to see a dramatic and lasting rise in your confidence and self esteem levels.


Don't just take my word for it, here is what others are saying about the course..

Wow! Powerful stuff...

First of all, I loved the beach and lakes in the background shots.

The instructor Tobi highlighted many issues I am currently dealing with and even made me become aware of some harmful things I didn't even know I was doing! I also loved how he related the concepts to his own life and experiences and how he dealt with them.

The material covered is powerful and uplifting, I feel so inspired after watching this. I can't remember when I have ever felt so felt this good and confident about myself.

Life = Bring it on!

by Katie Ashton

Great Course

Tobi really helped me in this course to reshape my beliefs and my whole thinking towards a more positive outlook on things. I know I still have a long way to go to reach my goal, but thanks to this course I now have the right tools to do so. I can only recommend this course to anyone who wants to brush up his/hers self-esteem muscle.

by Julian J


If low confidence is something that is holding you back, you need to take action today.

If not now then when?

If you don't take action and do something about it today, nothing is going to change.

Trust me when I say, regret weighs tonnes. I lived 20 years of my life full of regrets, you don't want to get to the end of your life with regrets.

So ask yourself this question…

If I don't take action now where will I be 12 months from now? And how about 5 or 10, 20 years from now?

If you keep taking the same actions as you are today how is anything going to change?

Life is short, I urge you to take action towards your happiness today. What have you got to loose?

I have poured my heart and soul into making this course. It has worked for me, worked for many others and I know it will work for you too.

I look forward to seeing you on the inside.

What are the requirements?

  • Students will need a note pad & paper or a computer to take notes and do the exercises provided.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Understand exactly what it takes to build rock solid confidence
  • Get out of your comfort zone and go after what you want
  • Identify the common causes of low self-esteem and confidence
  • Be more assertive and get what you want without coming off as weak or arrogant
  • Get people to pay attention to you, respect you and take you seriously
  • Exude confidence in everything you do
  • Like yourself more
  • Turn that negative inner voice into a positive one
  • Become your own best friend and personal life coach
  • Feel comfortable and confident in your own skin
  • Learn to put yourself first without coming off as selfish
  • Overcome fear and judgement

What is the target audience?

  • Anyone who wants to grow their confidence, improve their self-esteem, go after the things they want in life, like themselves more, find their ideal partner and earn more money should take this course.
  • Anyone who is not 100% satified with their current life circumstances will benefit from this course

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

Learn on the go.
Desktop, iOS and Android.

Get rewarded.
Certificate of completion.


Section 1: Getting Started

An introduction video about your instructor, what you will learn on the course and why you need to sign up today.


A short introduction to the course.


How to get the maximum benefits and results from this course. This is a must read!


Get crystal clear on exactly what it means to "be confident" and how we want that to express itself in the real World.


Learn about the 2 different types of confidence and discover the difference between confidence and self-esteem. Then learn what factors contribute to low confidence and how we can grow it.

15 questions

Disclaimer - The following questionnaire is for personal information only and is not meant to be a professional evaluation.

This questionnaire measures general self-esteem (which is the attitude you have towards yourself). This quiz is designed to take an accurate analyses of where you are currently at with your self-esteem.

Below is a list of questions dealing with general feelings about yourself. Indicate if the statements are generally true for you. Please be open and honest in your responses.

Add up the amount of questions you answered yes to, then proceed to the next lecture where you can see what your quiz results mean for you.


Learn what your quiz scores mean for you.


The best way to develop lasting confidence is to sort out the causes of low-self esteem and fix those first, before rushing in and trying to fix the effects. Think of it as a long term fix over a short term fix.

Section 2: The Biggest Killers Of Confidence & Self-Esteem (and how to overcome them)

Learn about the most common belief that keeps people trapped. Learn why low self-esteem is not genetic and how I overcame my social anxiety.


Learn why negative "I ams" and "I cant's" are so harmful. I ams keep us boxed in and unable to grow and change. What kind of I ams do you tell yourself? Complete the exercise to find out.


How did you go in the exercise? Learn how to re-frame negative labels into more fluid, free-flowing positive labels.


The beliefs we hold about ourselves and the World shape our whole reality. The funny thing is, they don't even have to be true for us to believe them. Maybe it's time you challenged some of the beliefs you hold about yourself.


How did you go in the last exercise? Here is a second exercise to help us overcome poor beliefs.


Discover the link between bad beliefs and fully grown elephants.


The 4th a final exercise to help you re-frame your negative and limiting beliefs.


Your self-Image is the way you see yourself. Learn why it is so important to have a postive self-image and how to cultivate it in ourselves.


When was the last time you tested the assumptions and beliefs you hold about yourself and your capabilities? Here is a killer exercise to help you do just that.


Did you know the way we talk to ourselves has a huge effect on our self-esteem? How do you talk to yourself on a daily basis?


After this lecture you will be able to identify when you are using negative self-talk on yourself and choose not to pay attention to it. Then choose a more helpful thought.


Always picturing the worst possible outcome is the #1 confidence killer. Learn how to stop picturing the worst and instead picture the best.


Do you go out of your way to please others at the expense of your own well being? Learn why putting everyone before you and caring what everyone thinks of you is the worst thing you can do for your self-esteem.

21 questions

The first step to change is becoming aware something needs to be changed. Take this short questionnaire to determine whether or not you are displaying approval seeking and/or people pleasing tendencies.

Please be open and honest in your responses.

Keep score of your answers and how many you answered YES to. In the next slide you will get a breakdown of what that means for you.


What the results of your quiz mean for you.


If you have any questions so far, please start a discussion and I will reply within 24 hours. If you have gotten something out of the course, please go ahead and leave a review so that others can also benefit.


Learn a simple tip to help you care less what other people are thinking and saying about you.

Approval Seeking & Caring What Others Think - Part 2
How Did I Become Such An Approval Seeker?

Learn why the fear of failure will stop you in your tracks. Successful people process failure and rejection differently than unsuccessful people. Learn how to overcome the fear of failure.


Learn why blaming other people for our problems feels better for our ego. However, it is the very thing that keeps us trapped and unable to grow and change.

What's Holding You Back?

Learn why comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to feel bad about yourself and how to take yourself out of the race. We should only ever be competing with ourselves.


On the surface, it seems common sense to avoid the things that intimidate us. However, running away from our fears only serve to make them worse. Learn how to face your fears and overcome them.

Wanting Someone Else To Fix You
Section 3: Growing Your Confidence
Growing Your Confidence

Learn why it is so important to accept yourself for ALL of who you are, flaws and all.


Learn how to re-enforce positive beliefs about yourself through positive reference experiences.


Everything we want in out lives lies just outside of our comfort zone. Learn how to develop the mindset needed to get out of your comfort zone and go after what you want.


I want to give you some important questions to ask yourself.

Excuses - Everyone Has Them!

Discover why momentum is so important in developing a new habit and how we can use it to our advantage.


In this video you will learn how anyone can build the courage to chase their dreams, all it takes is one right decision.


A list of confidence building activities you can do that will help you to improve your social skills and improve your confidence dramatically.

Confidence Building Activities List

I am going to share with you my most effective tool to change your self-image and improve your life. Visualization.

Self Doubt Crushing Exercise - List Your Strengths & Remember Your Good Points

Learn why it is so important to not let things slide. Find out how you can be more assertive and achieve your desired goal without sounding weak or arrogant.


It has been said you are a mixture of the 5 people you hang around with the most. Learn why it's so important to choose your friends wisely and why negative friends can be so harmful for self-esteem.


Learn why it is so important to let go of what you can't control and why you should take learning to be more confident in baby steps.

Keep Seeing The Big Picture
Section 4: Outer Confidence

I have brought in my good friend and one of the most confident guys I know, Mitch Asser, to explain how confidence manifests itself in the physical world and how to physically come across as a more confident person.


Learn why knowledge is useless until we put that knowledge into action!

Thanks And Good Luck!

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Instructor Biography

Tobi Atkins, Life coach, ex-social anxiety sufferer, online entreprenuer

I am a life-transformation coach and author.

My self-improvement articles have been featured on blogs such as Lifehacker, Lifehack and Pick The Brain.

My life has been full of ups and downs. I am a living proof that you can overcome your biggest fears and achieve anything you want in life as long as you just have the courage to take the first step and not give up.

I spent most of my 20’s depressed, lonely and on strong antidepressants. By age 27, I had given up on ever overcoming my social anxiety & shyness. 

Even worse than that, I had given up on myself. 

I was my own worst enemy, always calling myself harsh names like ‘loser’ and ‘ugly.’ 

I hated myself and didn’t believe I was worth very much. 

I thought I was ‘weak’ and ‘broken’ for having social anxiety and felt inferior to just about everyone in the world. 

Like most people, I grew up believing the narrative we are sold by society. 

You were born confident or you weren’t. You were good with people or you weren’t. You either have it or you don’t, and I certainly didn’t, better luck next lifetime. 

I am here to shatter that myth for you. I am here to show you that you can overcome social anxiety and be anyone you want to be. 

I am living proof of that. 

In order to master anything in life, whether it be money or success, one must first master themselves. This is no easy task, however, once the mind is mastered, external abundance then becomes easy to manifest.

I have lived and studied under some of the World's most successful personal development and lifestyle experts. I now use their secrets in my own life and I have boiled down the process into small actionable steps that anyone can learn!

My passion in life helping others realize their own greatness and achieve a life of freedom and passion.

The most important thing to me is freedom, both financial freedom and having time to do the things you want to do, with the people you care about.

I am here to lead by example and show people how they can have it all, and then some.

Your life can truly be whatever you make of it.

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