Breaking Free from the Anger Trap

A 13 Step Strategy to Keep Anger from Sabotaging Your Life
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Published 8/2016 English

Course Description

Chances are, you already know how destructive anger can be. Relationships can be destroyed by it and personalities can be poisoned with it. Most angry people do not want to be that way, but they have never been taught how to think differently to act differently. 

During this course you will become aware of the important distinctions between constructive and destructive uses of anger. You will also be challenged to use the tools provided in this course to adjust your egotism, your control tendencies, your emotional insecurities, and your adversarial patterns.

By the end of this course you will not only have acquired a valuable understanding of the practical behaviors associated with a healthy and proactive anger management, but also the essential tools for creating a mindset and attitude that will transform your anger from a destructive disposition into a new personal presence that will impart genuine personal and relational success.

What are the requirements?

  • Be honest with yourself about the possibility that you might be mismanaging your anger.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • You will be able to identify the purpose of anger, recognizing how it is tied to hurt, the yearning for significance, and the craving for needs to be met. Knowing what anger actually is, you will then be positioned to match your use of anger with your goal of living inside mutually respectful relationships.
  • You will become proficient in identifying the damaging effects of suppressed anger, then choosing more honest and constructive means of letting your needs be known.
  • You will understand the drive behind aggressive anger so you can resist the temptation to belittle, demean, and invalidate. You will be given the tools enabling you to be in control without being controlling.
  • You will be provided strategies for transforming a passive anger model of deceitful expressiveness into a direct, specific, and supportive method of communicating your needs.
  • You will be equipped with several tools for providing beneficial assertiveness so that your anger will be communicated in a way that allows others to keep their dignity intact, just as you will maintain dignity in the expression of anger.
  • You will be given rational structures that allow the effective release of anger in such a way as to enable your mind to pursue higher priorities such as acceptance, patience, and understanding resulting in a new and revitalized mental perspective.
  • You will be able to quickly and accurately identify angry energy being used in situations that may harm your own, as well as others psychological well-being, not to mention critically sabotaging your success personally and professionally.
  • You will be able to let go of bitterness, realizing that clinging to a bitter attitude is akin to drinking poison in the hope that it will kill the other person. You will be challenged instead to move on to higher priorities such as mercy and tolerance.

What is the target audience?

  • Anyone who feels that they, or someone they live with, habitually mismanage their anger.

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Curriculum

Section 1: Breaking Free from the Anger Trap | Course Overview
Course Overview
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14:34
Downloading Your Let's Talk Worksheet
01:23
Section 2: Session 1: Anger: What’s the Point?
07:08

Before you can adjust your anger responses, you need to know what you are dealing with. This class explains the self-preserving purpose of anger, with an emphasis on the need to become honest about why you feel as you do. Then, armed with this insight, you will be challenged to decide if you want to choose a healthy or unhealthy path of expression. Your success will rise or fall based on your willingness to take responsibility (as opposed to forcing others to be responsible) for your emotion.

Let's Talk
01:56
Section 3: Session 2: Suppressing Anger
07:46

When anger arises, one option is to suppress it, opting to put on a false front of pseudo-stability. Of course, this only creates a fallout of misery since the suppressed emotion does not magically disappear. In this segment, the impact of suppression will be explained and you will be challenged to question if this is really a strategy that will assist you as you seek emotional maturity.

Section 4: Session 3: Openly Aggressive Anger
08:09

The most common form of anger is of the openly aggressive variety, and this episode will explain the distinctions of anger that demeans others. While seemingly addressing self-preserving needs, you will be faced with the realization that aggressive expressions only create more problems than they solve. The benefits of non-aggressive alternatives will be presented.

Section 5: Session 4: Passive Aggressive Anger
08:17

Some people adopt a sneaky means of expressing anger that allows tensions to be registered with the least amount of emotional vulnerability. This passive aggressive form of anger will be identified and you will be challenged to become more open and honest in explaining who you really are. You will be strongly encouraged to decide if you want to be sly and manipulative in angry expressions, as opposed to constructive and respectful.

Section 6: Session 5: Assertive Anger
07:49

The choice of assertive anger will be explained in this session. As you understand the more productive aim of this option (self-preservation accompanied by regard for the other), you will be faced with the choice to lay down non-productive anger expressions. You will be presented with examples of clean anger. You will then be tasked with the assignment of fusing of your valid moments of anger with respect.

Section 7: Session 6: Releasing Anger
07:12

Wisdom leads to the conclusion that you should pick your battles carefully if you want to be taken seriously when you are legitimately angry. This episode will extol the virtue of releasing anger, trading your harsh emotion for higher priorities such as forgiveness, tolerance, and patience. You will be asked to identify moments of anger when you need to let go and compromise in order to achieve relationship harmony.

Section 8: Session 7: Wasted Anger
08:40

Most angry people admit that too much energy is expended on matters that really do not matter. Their overuse of agitating anger prompts others to tune out the potentially valid message sent. Participants in this segment will be challenged to identify the behaviors associated with the “less is more” approach to anger management.

Section 9: Session 8: Bitterness
09:22

As a person continues in non-productive anger choices, a byproduct is bitterness and resentment. This class will examine a seemingly backward approach to getting rid of bitterness. Special emphasis is given to the truth that the primary person harmed by bitterness is yourself. You will be challenged to develop an honest assessment of the necessity (or not) of holding onto an emotion that has clearly run its course.

Section 10: Session 9: Anger and the Need for Control
10:04

When anger is misused, it is a virtual guarantee that control has become a major driving force. Yet, as will be discussed in this segment, it is also true that the more you try to control, the more out of control you become. Is that what you really want and need? You will be presented with a plan to communicate anger in the least controlling manner.  Ironically you will find that the best way to be in control is to cease trying to be in control.

Section 11: Session 10: The Insecurity Beneath Anger
10:16

Chronically angry people are anything but secure. While they may give the appearance of forcefulness and power, they display the hurt of a rejected boy or girl. This session will strongly encourage an honest assessment of the insecurity that drives anger, then you will be shown how to use behaviors associated with true inner confidence. As you confront your inner worries about the yearning for significance, you will be faced with the choice to find personal worth from inside yourself.

Section 12: Session 11: Setting Aside Raw Egotism
09:50

Much of the anger impulse is driven by raw egotism, the absorption with Self. Anger can represent a lack of empathy as the focus lies instead on My needs, My cravings, and My convictions. This class will explain how the humble path of anger leads to the highest potential for conflict resolution. Specific uses of humility-driven anger will be highlighted.

Section 13: Session 12: Anger as a Fear Reaction
09:20

At the foundation of most anger is fear. In essence, the angry person thinks: “I am threatened by the invalidations of others, and I have to put an end to it.” This inevitably leads to forms of angry expressions accompanied by great defensiveness, as will be outlined in this class. You will be given a blueprint for managing anger anchored in a mindset of self-trust.

Section 14: Session 13: Thoughts to Guide Your Anger
09:23

This final session will focus on six primary questions to ask yourself as you determine how to manage anger with a healthy, constructive attitude.  You will be taught to filter your emotional expressions through a mindset of well-conceived values and principles. Special emphasis will be given to expressions that uphold the dignity of all persons (including yourself) engaged in a given conflict.

Section 15: Breaking Free from the Anger Trap | Course Wrap-Up
Breaking Free from the Anger Trap | Course Wrap-Up
02:40

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Instructor Biography

Les Carter, Ph. D., Professional Marriage Specialist, Therapist, and Author

With 35+ years experience and over 60,000 counseling sessions, Dr. Les Carter speaks with the practical wisdom of one who truly understands what it takes to elevate individuals to relationship success.

Dr. Carter maintains an active counseling practice in Southlake, Texas and is the best selling author of 20 books including the Anger Trap and Enough About You, Let’s Talk About Me that have been translated into 10 languages. 

Dr. Carter is the host of MarriagePath Radio, a weekly national podcast that moves individuals and couples beyond the teaching of simple skills to utilizing emotions and behaviors in such a way that powerfully shapes life habits so that real change happens.

Dr. Carter is well known for his nationally renowned seminars and workshops.

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