Quality relationships are fundamental to success at home and work but the problem is that we don't have a very good set of tools for understanding them. When things go well we use phrases like 'we just get along', or 'we just seem to click' - and when things go wrong, we say 'its just a clash' or 'she drives me mad' or 'its no good, there's no point talking to him!'.
So, what if you had a better way of making sense of things? Just like any skill you've learnt in life - it started with understanding - the notes in music, the ingredients in a recipe, the tools for DIY, the rules of the road. In this course you'll learn a brilliant way of making sense of the people situations in your life.
Improve your impact and effectiveness at home and work
Whether you're interested in people or just find some of them really difficult(!) - change is possible once you understand what's going on. This is true for men and women, young or old.
The good news is that you already have what it takes to be successful in your relationships - it's about recognising the effective states and spending more time in them - a 10% increase could make the world of difference to you.
Contents and Overview
Within just two videos you'll get the idea. That's how simple it is. By the end of Section One, you'll be starting to make connections to your own life.
In Section Two you'll gain insights to your success at work - what is your impact with your boss and co-workers? You'll consider the same question about home - appreciating why things work well and why at times they might be difficult. If you're getting into arguments with people, Section Two is where you'll find out why and we'll give you some proven tips for getting out of this.
The course will help you to understand both whats going on AND what you can do about it.
In Section Three you'll learn techniques to improve the following: Parenting. Teenagers. Motivating a team. Difficult conversations. Giving a presentation or public speech. Surviving a toxic workplace. Long term relationships.
The course material has been created for Udemy by a team of professional psychologists with over 20 years experience of using the model.
Once you know what's going on between people - then you can do something about it. You can enjoy more successful relationships at work and home.
Welcome! We hope you learn as much as the many hundreds of people we've introduced this model to over the years.
Human beings are complicated. But what if we could simply things? In this video you'll learn about the 3 basic psychological states that all people share.
In this video we complete the model to give six different states in total. Will you identify with the story of the 16 year old coming home late? We bet yes!
When you are being effective, its because you are using a balance of the three effective states. Do you have a preference for one of them more than another? How much time do you spend in them?
We can't be effective all of the time. So let's understand what happens when we're not. Which of the ineffective states do you most recognise in yourself?
Can you spot which Ego State these people are in?
Which Ego States do you spend most time in at work? Watch the video and use the questionnaire to find out.
How do you create the right atmosphere at home? Have you got the balance right? Find out how.
Why do people get into conflict? Learn why every argument is the same and spot the signs that trigger conflict for you.
One of the most important lessons in life - learning not to get hooked.
Top tips for resolving conflict when its started - at work or at home
Resilience, confidence, self esteem - learn how to be your best friend not your worst enemy!
Oh, the sleepless nights, the guilt that we're screwing them up! Why not watch this lesson and think about things in a more helpful way?
Forget the loud music and messy bedroom for a moment and join us in this video thinking about what's going on for teenagers and parents during these important years.
Unlock the potential in your relationship by learning the language of relationship currencies. We all need to belong but we're all different in the amount and type of recognition that works for us. This powerful video asks you questions about your own needs and those of your long term partner. At its heart is a simple idea that becomes obvious once you've seen it.
You probably avoid difficult conversations because like many people, you're not sure where they'll go once you've started! You worry that either party will lose their temper or can't quite think how best to say something. Help is at hand with a simple but powerful way to structure any difficult conversation and tips on how to get yourself in the right frame of mind before you start.
Discover the traps that many managers fall into and use this video to develop motivation levels within the team. We'll ask you to think about your impact on the team and whether you have underplayed strengths that you could use more of.
Bullying or aggressive behaviour at work is both ineffective and exhausting. But what if you're caught in the middle? How do you be a good manager when those above you don't role model the right approach? Here we offer five strategies to survive the toxic workplace.
The thing about nerves is that we often avoid the situation causing them - its a bad habit because that nervous feeling doesn't keep on growing and growing for ever - it reaches a peak and then reduces. So in this video we provide strategies to recognise and manage the nerves so that you can be yourself when you make that speech. Yes - even you!
Thanks for taking the course and some practical advice on how to set improvement goals.
Real Life Psychology are a team of professional Psychologists who have been teaching and training people how to communicate and build better relationships for 20 years. We work mainly with large business organisations but now, thanks to Udemy, are really excited about sharing what we know with a wider audience. Our passion is to provide practical, interesting, relevant psychology for normal, well-adjusted people who really want to be good parents, partners, colleagues or managers. People like us.