Assertiveness Training: Gain Respect and Personal Power

Learn to assert yourself to achieve your dreams and your desires. Live a richer, more confident, more fulfilling life.
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Published 2/2015 English

Course Description

Assertive People:

Assertive people ask for what they want and don't cower in the face of opposition, yet don't offend others. They stand up for themselves and their own fairly and adequately, yet don't dominate all of their interactions. They are not doormats, nor do they run over others. They think for themselves and possess confidence in their own opinions and perspectives, while respecting those of others as equally valid and valuable. They're not necessarily stubborn; they just don't cave in to pressure. They respect others and others' rights to their opinions while holding firm with their own. Assertive people understand that they are neither more nor less important than other people, and this mindset guides their interactions.

Assertiveness is a component of communication competence -- the ability to communicate appropriately and effectively for a given situation. Thus, developing assertiveness also helps develop communication competence, and helps make you a better communicator overall.

Causes of non-assertiveness

Social science says that your communication disposition, as either aggressive, passive, or assertive, is either a function of your DNA (nature) or your environment (nurture), or a combination of the two. In other words, this remains a bit of a mystery. So, why we are passive, aggressive, or assertive is not the focus of this course. In fact, we don't discuss that at all. Instead, we simply look at what communication behaviors demonstrate assertiveness, and contrast those with behaviors that demonstrate passiveness and aggressiveness.

This Course:

This course, grounded in communication research, presents definitions and characteristics of assertiveness along with many tips for developing assertive communication skills. Succinct lectures provide you with a lot of high quality information quickly and clearly, without droning on in repetition, respecting your time and allowing you to move quickly through the material. Sample phrases for each cluster of characteristics are offered for students to adopt and adapt as they wish in developing their own assertive communication skills. Nonverbal communication cues are discussed individually, allowing the student to focus on one specific component at a time in developing these skills. Lessons break down assertive communication into individual parts, allowing the student to more deeply understand the underlying mechanisms of what makes communication assertive and how to achieve that for him/herself. Quizzes reinforce the ability to identify assertive communication. Links to assertiveness quizzes in the Introduction allow you to ascertain the primary type of communicator you are, and help you decide whether this course is for you.

This course is intended for all passive communicators and all aggressive communicators who want to cross over into the more socially appropriate assertive communication style. Lectures include discussions of concepts as well as actual phrases you can draw from in developing your own assertive communication style. The course will take just a short time to complete, but I recommend you incorporate the tips and characteristics slowly enough to adequately internalize them. This isn't a course only in knowledge, but in altering your mindset and the way you approach situations. These aren't changes that can occur overnight.

Develop your own assertiveness

Learn to assert yourself to achieve your dreams and your desires. Understand the differences between assertive communication, passive communication, and aggressive communication, and the impressions these various types of communication leave on others. Mold your communication into assertiveness with clear presentations of assertiveness characteristics, and a toolbox of ready phrases for you to use as you like in developing and practicing assertive communication. Develop your assertiveness skills and progress toward communication competence.

Don't delay! Start becoming more assertive today!

What are the requirements?

  • Students need to bring a willing attitude, nothing more

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Develop assertive communication skills
  • Articulate characteristics of assertive people
  • Discern differences between assertive, aggressive, and passive communication
  • Focus on individual characteristics for overall assertive communication development
  • Draw from a variety of assertive phrases
  • Articulate nonverbal communication cues of assertive people
  • Internalize assertive practices
  • Incorporate more assertive communication into your daily life
  • Improve communication competence
  • Become more assertive

What is the target audience?

  • For anyone who wishes to be more assertive, as opposed to passive or aggressive
  • For anyone who wants to develop a more balanced outlook on life
  • For anyone who wants to use communication respectfully to achieve personal goals

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Curriculum

Section 1: Introduction
02:24

Introduces course. Explains the approach the course takes and what the student can expect from the course.

The links below takes you to assertiveness tests. Take these tests to see if your assertiveness level is where you want it to be. If it is, excellent work! If it isn't, this course is definitely for you.

04:22

Lecture offers key definitions, which are necessary to provide a foundation for the ideas to be discussed in upcoming lectures.

Definitions
6 questions
Section 2: Characteristics of Assertive People
02:14

Lecture introduces section on assertiveness characteristics. Explains that characteristics are organized into four clusters. Each cluster is represented by one lecture.

01:52

Characteristics of the assertiveness cluster "directiveness", with sample phrases demonstrating these characteristics.

Please see "downloadable materials" for an outline of the lecture and exercises for this concept.

03:32

Characteristics of the assertiveness cluster "social assertiveness", with sample behaviors demonstrating these characteristics.

Please see "downloadable materials" for an outline of the lecture with sample phrases, and exercises for this concept.

02:45

Characteristics of the assertiveness cluster "defense of rights", with sample phrases demonstrating these characteristics.

Please see "downloadable materials" for an outline of the lecture with sample phrases, and exercises for this concept.

01:11

Characteristics of the assertiveness cluster "independence", with sample phrases demonstrating these characteristics.

Please see "downloadable materials" for an outline of the lecture with sample phrases, and exercises for this concept.

01:04

Lecture summarizes and recaps the lectures on assertive characteristics.

Characteristics
5 questions
Section 3: Nonverbal Communication Cues of Assertive People
01:03

Lecture introduces the section on assertive nonverbal communication cues.

02:40

Lecture on nonverbal communication areas of vocalics (voice) and proxemics (space). Discusses how to focus on various components of these areas for assertive communication.

03:16

Lecture on nonverbal communication areas of haptics (touch) and kinesics (movement). Discusses how to focus on various components of these areas for assertive communication.

03:04

Lecture on nonverbal communication areas of facial expressions, gaze (eyes), and clothing. Discusses how to focus on various components of these areas for assertive communication.

00:58

Brief lecture summarizes the section on Nonverbal Cues for Assertiveness, offers recommendations for incorporating them into your daily life.

Section 4: Additional Tips
2 pages

Downloadable document offers examples for saying no in various situations.

04:55

Tips for developing an assertive mindset.

06:42

This lecture is intended specifically for passive communicators wanting to transform into a more assertive communication style. It discusses the challenges specific to a passive mindset and offers suggestions for overcoming them.

06:00

This lecture is intended specifically for aggressive communicators wanting to transform into a more assertive communication style. It discusses the challenges specific to an aggressive mindset and offers suggestions for overcoming them.

Section 5: Conclusion
02:05

Reviews and summarizes course. Offers final comments and tips.

Downloadable outline represents entire course.

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Instructor Biography

Dr. Michele Poff, PhD, Social Scientist, Communication

Hi! I'm Dr. Michele Poff. I have a PhD in Communication*, an MA in Applied Linguistics, and a BA in English**. I've taught university courses in communication and English language for 14 years.

I'm so pleased to have discovered Udemy! This platform allows me to fulfill a lifelong dream of mine, which is to bring the knowledge I've acquired in so many years of university education to people outside of my university courses. Now thanks to Udemy, I can help all kinds of people all over the world who want to improve their lives.

You can be confident that all of my courses come from solid science or unique personal experience, and you will know the difference. For example, there is no science for freelancing tips, and at the same time, I wouldn't dare create a course on confidence, assertiveness, or relationships based on personal experience. Instead, as a PhD, you can be confident that the material I bring to you is grounded in solid science, and is the result of years of scientific research. These are not university courses of course, as they are a lot shorter and a lot simpler here. But I do take pride in creating university-quality courses for my Udemy students. What you get from my courses is complete confidence that the material I offer you is solid and accurate, according to the science on the specific topic. It is not my own opinion. I always do a lot of homework to bring to you the very best courses I can, that are based in solid research and fully backed by science. So the information you learn in my courses isn't just "what my Udemy teacher said," but rather you can be confident that what you get in my courses is "what the science says." This is a really important feature that separates my courses from most of the other courses on Udemy. Everyone has a perspective, and sometimes those perspectives are insightful. But in the end, those are just personal perspectives, and are no different from everyone else's. If you want to be able to rely on the information you receive in your course as accurate and valid in general as the science has shown, instead of being true only for the person teaching the course, then my courses are a good fit for you!

You are in good hands with me :)

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*University of Washington is currently ranked number 3 of the world's public universities. It is ranked number 16 of all universities in the world.

**University of California, Berkeley is consistently ranked number 1 of the world's public universities. It is consistently ranked in the top five of all universities in the world, usually behind Harvard, Stanford, and MIT.

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