Achieve Self-Confidence for Success at Work is the perfect course for you if you’re having trouble getting ahead at work or feel you’re walked all over. In this course, I teach you the difference between low and high self-confidence and how to transform your thoughts and the pictures in your mind so you feel self-confident from the inside. You’ll learn how to identify the right type of job for your personality, do a bang-up job at work, and how to speak up in meetings. And more than that, you’ll gain the skills to confidently ask for a raise and feel self-assured when giving a presentation. Some people suffer from being perfectionists where they do their best to do everything just right and not make a single mistake. You’ll understand the difference between being a perfectionist and a healthier high achiever and how to modify your behavior to make the change. Do you have a habit of saying yes when a co-worker asks you to do extra work or passively allow others to criticize you with no cause? If so, you’re a passive personality, and your co-workers are taking advantage of you. You’ll learn the four types of “I” statements that assertive people commonly use to express their opinions as well as their wants and needs. You’ll also gain the knowledge of improving your relationships with your co-workers on personal and professional levels and dealing with a difficult boss.
Welcome to my course! I'm Vivian Harte, and I had little self-confidence when I was a child. I was afraid to raise my hand in class, and I was a wallflower waiting for boys to ask me to dance which led me to think I wasn't good enough. But I taught myself the skills to have high self-confidence, and you can have high self-confidence too!
In this course, you'll discover how to change your inner dialogue from self-defeating thoughts to uplifting, strengthening ones. You'll explore ways to have greater confidence when you interview for a job, speak up in meetings, make presentations, and request a raise. In addition, you'll learn tips on building effective relationships with your co-workers and even a difficult boss.
It's time for you to become a stronger, more confident person, so let's get going!
You spend most of your time at work, and having high self-confidence is crucial to making the most of your job and your life. In this lecture, you identify whether you have the characteristics of high self-confidence or low self-confidence both in daily life and in the workplace.
The level of your self-confidence affects every part of your work life - from the job you choose to the quality of the work you produce to your relationships with your boss and co-workers. In this lecture, I introduce you to two sets of people, Natalie and Audrey and then Daniel and Ryan. You'll see how low self-confidence affected one and how high self-confidence made a huge difference in the other person's work life.
I've heard a number of myths about self-confidence, and I'm going to blow the most important four out of the water - that you're either born with self-confidence or not, that only poor and homeless people have low self-confidence, that high self-confidence comes with praise from others, and that it's downright difficult to increase your self-confidence. None of these myths is true, and I'll tell you why.
Have you ever said something like, "I'll never get a job better than this one, so I'm stuck!" or "All I want to do is go home at 5:00"? These types of thoughts limit you and hold you back from the type of work you would like to do and how successful you would be at it. Your sense of self-confidence most likely came from your past - from people you knew, how they talked to you and acted towards you, and the experiences you had as a child growing up. These led to your understanding about the world and your place in it. In this lecture, discover the behaviors from peers and the pressure from the media and ads that were the source of your feelings of low or high self-confidence. In our next lecture, we'll go in depth on how your level of self-confidence comes in part from people you were closest to as a child and the behaviors that created your level of self-confidence.
Our early environments affect us deeply, and we take in the messages we received. These messages then form our core beliefs. In this lecture, I'll help you understand the messages you received and the behaviors you experienced as a child that were part of forming how much self-confidence you had as a child and now as an adult as well as the core beliefs you created.
Your core beliefs are those beliefs you created when you were a child based on your experiences and the ways you were treated and talked to. Your sense of self-esteem also come from those experiences. Self-esteem and self-confidence are related. When one is high, the other is most likely high, and vice versa. In this lecture, explore the core beliefs that lead to high self-esteem and those that lead to low self-esteem and low self-confidence.
Girls are generally taught to be "less than" and boys are commonly taught to be "more than." How do these traditions translate into high and low self-confidence? And how do they relate to the workplace?
Your self-talk is where your core beliefs are heard. Your self-talk affects everything about your entire life, let alone your working life. In this lecture and the next, examine the six mind games that people with low self-confidence play with their thoughts AND how to turn them around and create statements of high self-confidence instead. This lecture contains the first three: mind reading becomes find out the truth, predicting a negative outcome becomes have an accurate perspective, and overgeneralizing becomes be realistic.
Your self-talk is what determines your life, more than almost anything else. In the last lecture, you discovered three of the mind games people with low self-confidence play with their thoughts and how to change those to create thoughts of high self-confidence. In this lecture, discover the other three mind games and their opposites: labeling becomes use only positive labels, focusing on the negative and discounting the positive becomes concentrate on the positive, and comparing yourself with others becomes be proud of yourself.
This section is dedicated to teaching you how to turn your thoughts from down putting to uplifting. Yes! This is the core of changing from a person with poor self-confidence to a person with an abundance of self-confidence. In this lecture and the next three, start your journeying into two processes that build the ability to change your self-talk. In this lecture, you'll learn all about affirmations - the benefits, common affirmations that people use, how to add color and emotions to your affirmations, and how to use them most effectively. In the next lecture, you'll discover the secrets of writing your own affirmations. In two lectures from now, I cover how to do guided visualizations to put yourself in the situation of being self-confident, and the next is a special gift to you, my guided visualization Developing the Picture of Your Ideal Life.
Affirmations can be your friend in changing from negative self-talk to positive self-talk. Find out the eight secrets to creating your own that are most effective.
Visualization is seeing bright, colorful and clear images of exactly what you want to be. It's like a movie in your mind. Because your mind wants the mental pictures on the inside and the physical images on the outside to be consistent, it will try to match your outer reality with your mental images. This lecture explains what visualization is and how it can be used to change your self-talk and includes eight tips for successful visualization.
Take a journey with me. Imagine you are walking along a path in a meadow with flowers, you go into a beautiful white building, and open the lid of a marble box to read the details of your ideal life. You see what you are wearing and saying, who is with you, how you feel. You can easily see your ideal life and how happy you are. Be in the movie as though it's you living it and it's happening now. Fill in as many details as you can - with color, hearing, sight, taste, and feeling and joy. Then come back to your room. You can make up your own visualizations. As you visualize often, you'll see that you are becoming more like the pictures you imagine and continue to hold in your mind throughout the day.
Having confidence in the workplace begins with having the type of job that fits your skills, talents, and interests. You want to be in a job that matches your personality and that you thrive in. By the end of this lecture, you'll know the many questions to ask yourself to determine your natural skills, what type of work excites you, and what ambiance of workplace you prefer.
Identifying your life purpose, message and value will lead you to the core of who you are as a person and what you bring to the workplace. Knowing your purpose and the message you offer allows you to then understand your value more deeply. This lecture asks you many questions so you tune into your life purpose, message and value and how these will help you pinpoint the type of work that fits you best.
Have you ever been in an interview where you felt uncomfortable and stressed? You most likely didn't do well or get hired. It's difficult to present yourself at your best when you're this way. This lecture introduces you to the many tactics you can develop to be more confident when you're interviewing, both in answering questions and asking them.
Doing a bang-up, excellent job at work will add tremendously to your self-confidence. Everyone wants a superior performance evaluation, and doing a great job at work will put you in the best position to getting that glowing evaluation or that compliment from the boss. Learn the tips to doing a top-quality job.
Picture this: You're listening intently about a new idea another team member had that will help the project. You think of a way to expand her idea, and you lean forward to tell your teammates about your idea. But you freeze! You can't open your mouth and talk. The next minute, another teammate offers the same idea, and the rest of the team is excited and compliments that person for suggesting it. You think, "That could have been me!" You have a unique contribution to make, a new perspective or concern that needs to be voiced, and your confidence needs to be strong enough to speak up in meetings.
Take another journey with me. This time you're at work. Imagine you're sitting at your desk, organizing everything you see and prioritizing your work. Before you begin your first task of the day, one of your team members calls about an item to be discussed at your team meeting today, and you answer all his questions. You finish your first and second tasks. Then you realize it's time to go to the team meeting. At the meeting, you offer ideas about the project the team is working on, and your teammates are impressed. Later, you mention some points about another teammate's suggestion, and everyone agrees with you. It's a great meeting!
As you become more confident at your workplace, you may very well be called upon to make a presentation to an audience of your peers, management, or clients. Many people are afraid to make presentations, and I understand that. In this lecture, move from being scared to being poised and self-assured in your presentations by following the suggestions I make.
When it's time to ask for a raise, you have a more likely chance to get it if you're confident and assertive in your approach. Find out what to do before asking for a raise, what to do when you're meeting with your boss, and what not to accept.
You've decided it's time to move on to another job. There is an art to making a graceful exit, and this art is detailed in this lecture - from when to resign to how to resign to keeping your relationships from work.
This section is about being a perfectionist, someone who forces themselves to be perfect in every way. While wanting to achieve well is normal for people of high self-confidence, pushing oneself to accomplish impossible goals and punishing oneself for making mistakes are unhealthy. This lecture introduces what perfectionism is so you can begin to assess whether you are one.
Like core beliefs, people's tendency toward perfectionism commonly begins in childhood. In this lecture, listen to the experiences of child when they were young that led them in this direction and think about whether you experienced the same or the opposite.
High achievers have a drive to succeed, but they do it in a much healthier way than perfectionists. By the end of this lecture, you'll have a better grasp of the difference in behavior in six areas to move from being a perfectionist to being a high achiever. You'll also learn some tips for becoming a high achiever.
Another present for you - my song - "Don't stop, time is change, time again to rearrange, time to find those changes in your life..."
Having healthy relationships with your co-workers may very well help you do your job better and will certainly be a positive when management evaluates your performance. I've separated the many ways to build professional relationships with your co-workers into these five categories: get to know them, help them, work with them, recognize them, and attend larger gatherings to be with them. Each of these categories includes suggestions for relating to your co-workers.
Getting to know your co-workers is one way to nurture your relationship with them. In this lecture, we're going to go deeper and cover how to build a stronger relationship with your co-workers on a personal level.
Dealing with a difficult boss is no fun! In this lecture, you'll uncover the two reasons why bosses can be so difficult, how to figure out which type you're working with, and how to interact with your boss in the best way possible.
Do you have a habit of saying yes when a co-worker asks you to do some extra work, even if you're overloaded? Do you stop yourself from speaking up and sharing what you need or want and how you see things? If so, you're permitting others to treat you like a doormat and this leads to having low self-confidence. By the end of this lecture, you'll be able to use the four types of "I" statements that will help you be more assertive in your speech with your boss and co-workers.
In order for people to see you as assertive and respect you more highly, you must have assertive body language that complements the assertive speech I taught you about in the last lecture. In this lecture, you'll understand how to be assertive in your body posture, your speaking voice, and taking up space.
Some workplaces reward people for being assertive, and some punish them, so be careful! Obviously, you want to work with an employer who appreciates and rewards assertiveness and self-confidence. But you may not know which type of employer it is. You don't want to get fired for being too assertive. So when you're first in your position, ask questions about your workplace and the way your co-workers act to assist you in determining whether assertiveness is welcome. In this lecture, find the questions to ask to determine whether your employer will value your assertiveness or reject it.
High self-confidence can be contagious in the workplace. When someone is self-confident and nurtures that same feeling in others, the entire workplace benefits. Reflect on the various ways you can help others increase their self-confidence.
Another gift for you - I sing this song for you to point you in the right direction. When I sing, "You gotta keep on singing your song, you gotta keep on writing your song," what I mean is that whatever you're doing - at work or anywhere - keep doing your best, keep growing and becoming the magnificent person you are!
I wanted you to have a list of books about self-confidence that I suggest, of course, starting with the book of which I am the co-author Self-Esteem for Dummies in the Dummies series. I hope these books and further information are helpful to you.
I also wanted to provide you with webpages that I feel can help you in your journey from low self-confidence to healthy and high self-confidence. Enjoy!
Your instructor Vivian has many things to offer you, including other online courses, a book, a webinar, and group phone consultations. Get the details here!
Vivian Harte has taught assertiveness skills to over 12,000 people since 2003. Since she was shy as a child, she had to learn how to be self-confident and have strong self-esteem. Vivian has had her own radio and television shows in three cities, and her most recent book is Self-Esteem for Dummies in the Dummies series. She has a Bachelors degree in Sociology and a Masters degree in Public Administration, and she taught college classes for 14 years.