5 Steps to Stop Beating Yourself Up
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5 Steps to Stop Beating Yourself Up

Learn How to Stop Being Your Worst Critic
5.0 (2 ratings)
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Created by Maia Berens
Last updated 6/2016
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  • 31 mins on-demand video
  • 5 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • You will quickly be able to stop self-criticism and beating yourself up.
  • You will feel better and better about yourself.
  • You will even learn how to use this tool to help in relationships with others.
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  • Be able to print the downloads so you can do the 5 steps.

One of the largest barriers to personal growth and feeling good about yourself is being self-critical or beating yourself up. You might be so used to having negative thoughts about yourself, you don't even hear them anymore. Learn how to stop this self-defeating process easily and quickly - finding inner peace.

The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassioncan even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.

This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.

“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent,” said Dr. Neff, an associate professor of human development at the University of Texas at Austin. “They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”

Here's what students have to say!

“I loved the class and the exercises. I can see myself doing it very often to touch base with my feelings on my life and who I am.”

“I would never have thought such a simple process would reap such rewards….I would have scoffed had I not tried. This sends me in a new direction that I thoroughly appreciate.”

“All in all, I felt like I went on a mini spiritual journey here.”

Stop listening to those old voices that tell you you did it wrong or you aren't smart enough or you did such a terrible thing or that was an unforgivable mistake. Learn how to give yourself forgiveness and love so you can stop being stuck in your life. You'll watch 6 videos and download pdf's that teach you the process. The course will take about 30 minutes. Take this course if you'd like to move forward into more and more success and more and better self-regard.

Who is the target audience?
  • This course is meant for anyone who's tired or hearing the negative voices in their head and know they are not helping them succeed in their life.
  • Do not take this course if you do not relate to being angry with, upset with, critical of, disappointed with themselves (or any other form of self-criticism.)
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Curriculum For This Course
5 (Easy) Steps to Stop Beating Yourself Up
6 Lectures 30:38

An overview of what the course consists of and why you want to learn what it teaches.

Preview 05:08

In this first class you will learn that although you might not feel it (or you might feel it all the time), expressing anger is the first step in learning how to stop beating yourself up and beginning the process of getting unstuck in your life. If you don't relate, just be willing to try it and if you need to change the word "anger" to "annoyance" or "displeasure" or any other word that seems more fitting to you.

Preview 05:44

Now you are an "emotion-expression rock star" so you might be surprised to find out that soft emotions like hurt and sadness are underneath your anger (disappointment, chagrin, upset, etc.)

It Really Hurts

Generally we are afraid we disappointed ourselves or someone else or that we look bad. This is all stuff manufactured by our minds. And the powerless little kid in us gets afraid.

And the most important transition step is your taking responsibility or "I'm sorry". If we create everything in our lives (my knowing), then taking responsibility (WITHOUT BLAMING YOURSELF) is an obvious need in order to truly be able to forgive.

I'm Afraid and I'm Sorry

Now you can forgive yourself because you have been able to EXPRESS your emotions. When emotions are not expressed, they mess us up. When they are not expressed appropriately, they really mess us up. They make us dislike ourselves or others; they cause problems in our relationships and with those with whom we work.

If we learn how to create peace and how to truly forgive in our relationships, we can create peace in our communities and maybe on this planet. 

Now It's Time to Forgive Yourself

Download the Love Letter Rules and the format and continue to use this tool for the rest of your life and watch for more from Maia.

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About the Instructor
Maia Berens
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Personal and Spiritual Growth Teacher

Personal and spiritual growth teacher who has been creating training programs for over 15 years. Her own personal transformation and healing from both emotional and sexual abuse as a child and an abusive 19 year relationship found her attracting mentors and teachers who taught her the building blocks that created her own finally successful marriage of 30 years with a wonderful and loving man. She teaches all the tools she learned and developed to find her own emotional health.